Hello, my name is Keianna.
I am a wife, mom of 5, a successful entrepreneur, a writer, author and……..a former PEOPLE PLEASER!
I can not pinpoint the exact day I wondered off to travel the road of a people pleaser, but I’ve walked that path for as long as I can remember. A social butterfly, naturally, in many ways I am a passive person. Overlooking the obvious things for the sake of keeping the peace and not hurting peoples feelings.
Another fact about me is I work best in structured environments. I enjoy being helpful towards others and I value my close relationships as if I am guarding my life. I do not like to lose, and the foundation of who I am is loyalty.
What’s interesting about this drug called “People Pleasing” is that a chronic people pleaser will tell you that they are not a people pleaser at all. People Pleasers overextend, overexert, overspend, are easily manipulated into doing things that are not in their best interest to stabilize someone else’s situation. In a nutshell, people pleasers are the captain save a hoe of all time. I say hoe as a figure of speech, but they save others before they save themselves which is not healthy. Word of advice: be weary of a person who does not take care of their own affairs first before taking care of someone else. Not a good quality to have. The Bible says ministry begins at home. If a person doesn’t take care of his/her house first, that individual is unstable. Nine times out of ten, that person is a habitual people pleaser. People pleasers will say and do anything for approval. The story of my life that ran me and my mental health into the ground. No one can survive without taking care of themselves first. Trust me, I had to learn this the hard way during my breakdown in 2016.
When it came to being angry (passive/aggressive), I had no problem speaking up and defending myself by any means necessary. I thought my ability to protect myself was a strength, but the real power I later learned is the capacity to stand on my beliefs. I am still a work in progress in this area of my life because I have operated in this manner since I was a child. The good news is, I am acutely aware of who I am. Thank God he isn’t through with me yet.
One of my favorite quotes in life is by William Shakespeare, ‘To Thine Own Self Be True” Truth moment: I was a people pleaser due to low self-esteem. Self-esteem for me had nothing to do with me being pretty because I always knew I was attractive. However, I had a terrible habit of putting myself down. I had a bad habit of putting myself and my soul on a platter to be eaten by wolves. I was overextending myself. Surrounded me was wolves in sheep’s clothing and not cutting those relationships off really hurt me in the long run. I convinced myself that it wasn’t “Godly” to cut those toxic relationships off. I dared to get angry when things didn’t work out in my favor. I was the cause of all this mess happening to me. I didn’t have the guts to say NO! My life was a dangerous concoction of brown and white liquor, and I would wonder why I was always sick?
Real change didn’t happen for me until I had ENOUGH!. Enough with overly caring about folks and their problems. Enough with being self-conscience. Enough with caring about what people think of me. Enough with being loyal to fake people. Sufficient with kissing butt. Enough with all forms of self-sabotage. Enough with the drama. I wanted to be happy. The only way I can ever be delighted is to rid myself of the craziness that surrounded me and BE MYSELF! With no apologies.
I created this site to help others who are like myself. You, yes YOU are something special. Take back your power to live your life happy. Live for you and most importantly, BE YOURSELF! If you struggle with people pleasing, low self-esteem, always worrying about what other people are thinking of you, self-sabotage, overextending yourself, taking care of everyone else needs but forget to take care of yourself…..This site is for you. Here you will be uplifted and restored to live your best life. TODAY!