Do the best you can with what you have.
In November 2014, God blessed my husband and me to become first-time homeowners. It was a dream we shared together for many years. I can remember laying in bed with my husband during pillow talk two-years prior, discussing what our life would be like if we ever owned a home. We imagined raising our children in a family oriented location with a fantastic school system while also giving them a childhood home filled with beautiful memories. It was nice sharing the possibilities of building a better life for our family. And so the process of finding a home began.
My mother-in-law worked in the Mortgage Industry at the time. She pulled some strings to connect us with the best people who would guide us through the process of buying a home yet who was honest with us about staying in a financial bracket that we could afford. My mother-in-law understood the fear my husband, and I had. We didn’t want to purchase a home to lose it later.
The process of visiting homes with our realtor was a real eye-opener. I came into the situation desiring everything on a grand scale. Not realizing the updated must-have appliances equaled money we did not have. I ended up eating a massive slice of humble pie. I received a reality check.
So, we ended up purchasing a four bedroom, slit foyer which is the home of our dreams. Our house built in the 80’s is a semi-fixer-upper that needed a few cosmetic upgrades. Hubby and I were cool with making our new house a home over time. Hell, a thirty-year mortgage is plenty of time to beautify our home.
Over a span of four-years, we were able to: Replace the water heater, replace washer and dryer, paint the living room, kids bedrooms, family room, bathrooms and decorate. I was happy I was able to put my feminine touch into our home…..Until Mr. Fancy Pants and his family moved into their house on the next street over.
Mr. Fancy Pants, my new neighbor, backyard faces my backyard. I can see almost everything he does from my deck. In two-years, Mr. Fancy turned his backyard into an episode of Extreme Makeover, and he did the work all by himself. I watched him (while standing in my window drinking coffee. #Stalking) build his wood fence, a screened-in porch, a playground, a chicken coop, a vegetable garden and cut down two trees. Oh, and his landscape looks like a beautiful spread in OWN Magazine. I watched this man create his dream home quickly, and I became low-key jealous because I wanted my backyard to look as beautiful too.
I had to snap myself out of it and once again bring myself back to reality. The truth is I cannot put money in my backyard right now. I have other things that need my attention. I can’t allow myself to get sidetracked with hateration; Seriously, my yard isn’t even on my list of home improvement chores this year. Once again, I had to eat a slice of humble pie.
Now, my husband and I do plan to replace our stove, splash some paint on the walls in the twins bedroom, scrape/paint our front door and pay someone to beautify parts of our front yard. A small plan, but it our program for our home. I do not have to compete with anyone. I must focus on myself and do the best I can with what I have.
Ending today’s post with a little advice, Do the best you can with what you have. Whatever your plans are in your life regarding your family, home or career determine what you can do right now and do it. Don’t allow hateration to be your driving force. Live within your means, and in due season, God will bless you with the desires of your heart. Remember the words of Maya Angelou: All great achievements require time. Give yourself time to grow.