In Time Of Bereavement.
Recently on October 1, my family experienced a devastating loss of my beloved Aunt Bo who has suffered many years with her health. Knowing there was a 50/50 chance of survival, we also knew the quality of her life would most likely decline. So when God called her home, I believe everyone was at peace with the fact my Aunt Bo is no longer suffering in her body, However, beginning the process of coping with the reality that we will no longer physically see her again is horrifically overwhelming. Every action and reaction to the news of her loss is valid from:
- Her children
- Her grandchildren
- Her siblings
- Her extended family (nieces, nephews, etc.)
- Her Friends
Are all experiencing what life will be like from this day forward without her having an active part.
Viewing the above definition of what it means to be overwhelmed by pain, is all the more important to find mercy in the heart when people are reacting to a situation that has completely rocked their world.
I am blessed to have a family who has locked arms together in our time of bereavement.
But what about the many families we see who have experienced trauma due to a death of a loved one and are judged for their reaction to having a broken heart? There isn’t enough mercy for people who are overcome with grief. We see it every day, a huge lack of compassion for the grieving. It seems like no one has a desire to help those who are in need anymore…
I honestly felt compelled to write this particular blog post because I too had to recognize that not everyone reacts to pain in the same manner. Not everyone is robust enough to hold their emotions together. Some people lash out in pain. There are those who cry in pain. Some people are afraid when they are in pain and began to operate from a place of fear. Some individuals have a history of substance abuse who relapse in pain. And then there are those who completely shut down physically and emotionally when they are in pain. When a person is in pain, nothing else matters except how the pain feels and the strong desire to wish the pain would go away. But in the case of death, there is no reversal of time. Death in a physical sense is permanent. The healing process can take years for a person to get used to not ever seeing their loved one again.
I encourage everyone who is reading today’s post, be mindful of what you say and how you treat those who are grieving. Ask yourself, “How can I assist in making things easier?” It doesn’t take much to make a person smile or be a little more understanding of someone else feelings. The circle of life is everything that lives must die. There will come a time that life as you know it will not be the same. How would you want someone to assist in making life more comfortable?